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Extroverts Married to Introverts – What To Do??

They say opposites attract, which is true – but they usually don’t finish the sentence which ends with “then opposites attack”.

They say opposites attract, which is true – but they usually don’t finish the sentence which ends with “then opposites attack”. So can opposites really have a happy and fulfilling relationship? The answer is yes! You just need to work with each other’s personality type. Let’s say, for example, that you are an extroverted personality type married to an introverted personality type. Using the DiSC model of human behavior, this would mean you are either a “D” (Dominant) or an “I” (Inspiring) personality type married to an “S” (Supportive) or a “C” (Cautious) type. Typically, conflict occurs when there is an event that will involve socializing. The extrovert is all for having a great time and the introvert…. well…. not so much! There is a way to find a happy resolution though! Here are few suggestions:

You can both agree, before going to the event, what time you will leave. This way the introvert will know exactly how long they will need to be sociable. They will also have something to look forward to – which is leaving!
You could also introduce your introverted spouse to someone else who will be there that is similar to their personality type. Make sure they feel comfortable with those around them before taking off to be the life of the party. (Yes “I” types – this is you)

Another idea is to drive separately with the understanding that the introvert can leave as soon as they are ready. This way the extrovert can stay as long as they like without the introvert having to socialize more than they want to. It would be easy for the extrovert to be upset with the introvert for not wanting to socialize, but it’s important to understand their personality type. While the “D” or “I” type might be invigorated by being able to interact, the “S” and “C” types are actually mentally drained by the same activity. It is not something the extroverted personality type should take personally. This is simply the way that introverted personality types are wired! Instead of focusing on the fact they aren’t extroverted like yourself, you should think about some of their strengths. Introverts are great with details, they do a great job when performing and task and much more! Just because they are not extroverted doesn’t mean something is wrong with them. They are just different from you and that is okay! Finding that happy medium that BOTH extroverts and introverts can be comfortable with is sure to make the relationship better for both people! Remember to always let your personality shine!

Angel Tucker is an Expert Personality Profiler, and Certified Human Behavior Consultant. She is the best-selling Author of Stop Squatting With Your Spurs On and the creator of the Four Pals children’s book series. Angel is married to a Lt. Colonel in the USAF and they have four children.

Helping the “D” Personality Type Get Some Rest!

If you are a “D” type you probably have trouble sleeping at night. You lie awake, tossing and turning, thinking about all the things…

If you are a “D” type you probably have trouble sleeping at night. You lie awake, tossing and turning, thinking about all the things you need to do as soon as you wake up! Here are some tips to catch some more zzzz’s! First, don’t drink any caffeine after 6pm. Second, take a long hot bath right before bedtime and make sure there is very little lighting in the bathroom or the bedroom. Third, keep a notepad beside your bed and as you think of all those things you need to do tomorrow just quickly write them down instead of thinking you are going to forget! Making these simple changes at night will have you more rested in the morning. More rested means more productive! It’s a win/win for you!

Why an “S” type Personality might appear to be a “D” type!

Have you ever observed an “S” type personality acting like a “D”? Well, there are a few reasons this can occur. First,

Why an “S” type Personality might appear to be a “D” type!

Have you ever observed an “S” type personality acting like a “D”? Well, there are a few reasons this can occur. First, if an “S” type feels that some great injustice has occurred, that someone has been wronged, or that someone is being rude – it is possible they will respond with boldness. This can make them appear to be a high “D” type. Another time that an “S” often seems to be more “D” is in their work environment. This personality type typically specializes in a particular field and that show confidence in that one area since they have studied it for so long. Those observing them from the outside may observe their confidence and mistake it for a “D” type personality. This is why it is important to develop patterns of behavior and not just observe one thing about a person and assume what their personality type is. I talk about this in my Best Selling book – Stop Squatting With Your Spurs On! I definitely recommend reading it! It will give you the tools to accurately read most people in just 60 seconds – or maybe less!

Why We Have Traits From All Personality Types!

Often times people are confused because even though they are dominant in one personality type, they exhibit traits of another type. Remember that noone is all ONE personality type. You are a blend of all four types. In fact, some people test “level” which means they are almost even in all four. It is completely normal to be dominant in one type, yet have a “thing” that you do in the other types. For example, I’m am normally a high D/I blend. My “C thing” is that I am a bit germphobic. I don’t like touching ketchup and salt containers in restaurants, or escalators rails, etc. I just think of all the millions of people who have touched them before me and I cringe. This is not a D or I trait, but rather my C “thing”. This is the way it should be since we are a blend of all four personality types. 80% of us are dominant in two of the four types as indicated in my D/I blend mentioned above. The key is to recognize someone’s dominant personality blend so you can best predict what they need from you to create those win/win situations that you desire! You can learn more about this in my best selling book Stop Squatting With Your Spurs On! The power to read people, get what you want, and communicate without pain. My website is: http://www.stopsquattingwithyourspurson.com

C Type Personalities and Their Need For Validation!

You know those people in your life who don’t believe anything you say without having to verify it through someone else first? They are most likely a “C” type personality! The letter “C” stands for cautious in the DISC personality assessment system. This personality type is a four levels deep thinker. Whenever someone is talking to them, they are thinking “I know what you are saying, but what do you mean?” To this type it can’t be as simple as what you say being what you actually mean. They are always looking for the “real meaning” or the “deeper truth”. If you don’t understand this personality type, you may become annoyed or offended by this action which is often the case when someone that is a different personality type from ourselves does something we don’t understand or don’t agree with. You can be rest assured that their need to verify information probably has nothing to do with you. Instead, it is just part of their personality type! It’s the way they are “wired”! You can learn more about our different personality types in my best selling book titled “Stop Squatting With Your Spurs On!” available on my website or Amazon.com.

I’m So Happy But I Can’t Remember Why!

Oh those “I” type personalities – forgetful in nature! The “I” represents Inspiring people in the DISC personality profiles assessment system. “I” types usually view life through rose colored glasses, love to have fun and make new friends, and tend to have a short attention span and memory. Sound like anyone you know? Well if you want to have a great working relationship with this personality type, here are some tips to remember. First, keep information simple. They don’t like factual information to be long and drawn out. Keep the task short and sweet as they tend to become bored verily easily. Above all else, make whatever you are doing fun! Also, never tell them what time you really want them to arrive since they are usually late. This personality type loves to have fun so incorporate that into whatever project you are working on and give them little incentives along the way to keep them interested in following through to the end! You can learn more about having a great working relationship with ALL the different personality types in the DISC personality assessment system by getting my best-selling book titled: Stop Squatting With Your Spurs On!

Slow Down With “S” and “C” Personality Types!

Remember when you are dealing with an “S” or a “C” personality type, based on the DISC Personality assessment system that they need time to process the information you gave them before responding. Often times, the “D” or “I” types assume that the “S” or “C” types are not serious buyers or seller because they don’t take action quickly! This is far from the truth! They need time to process the information give and make the best decision. They don’t jump into things quickly. The great news is that they are the most loyal customers of all – you just first have to get them! When working with them acknowledge that you know they need time to review the information you have given them and find out when they would like for you to follow up with them. They will appreciate you realizing how they are most comfortable doing business and before you know it, you’ll have a customer for life! You can learn more in my best-selling book titled: Stop Squatting With Your Spurs On! Available on my website at : https://personalityprofiles.org.

How We Make our "To Do" Lists Differently Based on OUR DISC Personality Type!

As a “D” or Dominant personality type, I love to make lists. The purpose of the list is to check off the list! Sometimes a “D” personality type will make a list of things they have already accomplished just so they can check them off! Although all personality types may make a list, the lists will look different depending on their most dominant personality. For example, since “D” and “I” types are bottom line communicators – they make lists that are, well, bottom line. For example, if they need to go to get groceries, pick up the dry cleaning, organize the bathroom drawer, and take their children to gymnastics – their list would read something like this:

groceries

dry cleaning

drawer

gymnastics – 6:00

This list would look very different if it were written by an “S” or “C” type. Their list would look more like this:

go to grocery store

pick up dry cleaning at Morton’s Dry Cleaners

organize the bathroom drawer so items fit in drawer properly

take kids to gymnastics at 6pm

Keep in mind, if it was an “I” personality type that made the list – they will probably lose it before anything on the list is even completed! I believe that it is perfectly acceptable to make the list either way – as long as you remember what you are supposed to do. Most “S” or “C” types that were looking at a “D” and “I” type’s list would have no idea what it meant went it read “drawer”. They would think “Why in the world did I write drawer”? This is why they make complete lists. It is more efficient for them to take a few extra seconds to write a detailed list now than to try to figure out what they meant later.

This is just one of the many ways that our DISC personality types are different! You can learn more about personality types and sign up to receive my free monthly e-newsletter on my website: personalityprofiles.org. There are always great tips for understanding our personalities as well as giveaways and “members only” specials! Just click on this link to sign up! Remember to always Let Your Personality Shine!

Why Does Our DISC Personality Type Change?

Have you ever wondered why our personality types can change? I often hear people say “Well I am a ____ personality type now, but I used to be a ____ personality type. Most of us have a change in our personality type, at least slightly, over our lifetime. There are three factors that influence your personality type. The first is our experiences. Maybe you were born an “I” personality type, but you were told to be quiet your entire childhood. The whole “kids are to be seen, not heard” mentality. Eventually you might become more of an “S” personality type. Secondly, our environment affects our personality type. For example, a “D” personality type who lives in New York City is probably going to be more aggressive than a “D” personality type that lives in the Bahamas. Out of necessity they have adapted to their environment. Last, our culture affects our personality type. If you are a woman in North America and you are a “D” type, your “D” personality type will likely be much more noticeable than a woman with the same personality type that was raised in many other Countries. That is because in several Countries, it is not acceptable for a female to be aggressive or the leader. If you are a “D” personality type and a female, your “D”ness would be more subdued because of this. It is important to remember that you are not just one personality type. You are actually a blend of all four types using the DiSC model of human behavior. Your blend however will usually change over your lifetime due to the three factors mentioned above. Normally, it takes quite some time for our personality type to change to any significant degree. I have, however, observed people who have had a traumatic event take place in their life and their personality changed instantly. Whatever your personality type, remember that you have great strengths and you need to let your personality shine!

The Importance of Being Multi-Lingual in #DISC Personality Types!

Have you ever talked with someone and it seemed they didn’t understand a word you said (assuming you both speak the same language)? The problem may lie in your personality types. Our natural tendency is to speak to others the way we prefer to be spoken to. If you are a bottom line communicator – you naturally speak “bottom line” to everyone you interact with. The same is true if you are more of an “a to z” type. You would give information to the person you are speaking to. As long as you are speaking to someone who has the same communication style as yourself, there will be no problems. You will probably understand each other perfectly. But what if you are a bottom line communicator such as the “D” and “I” personality types and you are speaking to an “S” or “C” personality type? You are sure to have difficulty communicating your message in such a scenario. Since you are only giving bottom line information, the “S” or “C” personality type is sure to respond with information gathering questions. This is usually very annoying – particularly to the “D” personality type. The “D”s thought is “I already told you everything you need to know, now get to work!” The “I”s thought is “I am more of a big picture person so I don’t want to think through all these questions – just figure it out as you go!” The challenge is that an “S” or “C” personality type wants to do the best job possible, therefore they want to gather all information – even if the “D” or “I” personality type doesn’t think it is important. Here are the differences between their thought processes:

“D” or “I” types – “Don’t tell me anything I don’t need to know right now. Just tell me whatever I need to know about this specific task!”

“S” or “C” types – “Tell me everything, whether you think it’s important or not. If I don’t need to know it for this particular task, I may need to know it in the future. I’ll decide what’s important and what’s not so let me hear it all.”

It is important to identify which personality type you are interacting with so you can speak their “personality language” in order to create win/win situations. Instead of focusing on how you would want the information presented, you must present the information the way they need you to in order to achieve success! I hope this helps you with your interactions with the different personality types! Remember to always let your personality shine!